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About Me
A Curious Path
Sometimes I think I’ve been searching for the answer to the same question my entire life:
Why do people feel, think, and act the way they do?
The ways I searched for that answer changed over the years, but the question itself never did.
Only much later did I come across the Japanese concept of keiko - learning through experience. It can also describe those quiet turning points that gradually shape the direction of our lives. Looking back, I can see that my own path has been formed by a series of these moments.
Childhood
One of my earliest memories is a children's book about a baby elephant who became a firefighter. I couldn't read yet, so I memorized the entire story and learned exactly when to turn each page. Then I would proudly "read" it aloud to anyone willing to listen.I think that was the first time I realized how much power stories can hold.
When I was four or five years old, I found an old Russian language textbook in my grandmother's house. For most people, it would have been just another forgotten schoolbook. For me, it became a puzzle, a treasure hunt, and a game all at once.
I loved discovering patterns, seeing how words connected, and realizing that language is much more than a way to communicate—it is a way of understanding the world.I didn't know it then, but curiosity was already becoming the driving force of my life.
Books quickly became my favorite companions. While other readers were fascinated by adventures, I found myself captivated by people. Why do they make the choices they do? Why do they misunderstand one another? What happens to us when we experience love, loss, fear, or hope?
Those questions stayed with me.
And one more thing always mattered to me: humor. I have always loved stories that leave people feeling lighter than before.
Words
Choosing my first profession was surprisingly easy.I wanted to understand how stories are built, why some books stay with us for a lifetime while others fade away, so I enrolled in the Faculty of Philology with the dream of becoming a writer.
My mother used to sigh and tell me that I would never find a job with such a degree.
Thankfully, she was wrong.
Stories
Journalism taught me how to listen.
Over the years, I interviewed people from very different walks of life—some well-known, many not. I discovered that almost everyone carries a story they long to tell, if someone is willing to truly listen.
Those conversations expanded my world and made me a better writer.
But eventually I realized that telling stories was no longer enough. I wanted to understand what shaped them. Why do people develop certain beliefs? What influences their choices? What helps them change?
That realization led me to my next keiko.
People
The first story I ever learned to examine in depth was my own.That was how I was taught: before helping others, learn to understand yourself.
It wasn't always easy, but it taught me one of the most valuable lessons of my life—to approach people with curiosity instead of judgment.
After immigrating to the United States, I found myself starting over. I returned to college and eventually earned my Master's degree at Adler University.
There, psychology became much bigger than individual behavior. I studied dignity, social justice, inclusion, cultural competence, leadership, and community alongside psychology itself.
For the first time, I began to see that a person's inner world cannot be separated from the world they live in.
And perhaps even more importantly, I became fascinated not only by the question, "What happened to us?" but also, "What can we build from here?"
The Future
I completed my internship at the Changing Children's Worlds Foundation, where I first encountered coaching.
It immediately felt like home.
Coaching allowed me to combine two things I had always cared about: understanding people's stories and helping them create new ones.
Since then, I've continued learning through many different approaches, including parent coaching, art therapy, life coaching, Inner Child work, Ikigai, and others. Each one has given me new tools, but none has changed the question that has guided me since childhood.
I'm still fascinated by people.
And even more fascinated by the possibility of helping them write the next chapter of their own story.
Today, all of those threads come together in Healing Fox.
My love of language helps me find the right words. Journalism reminds me to ask thoughtful questions. Psychology helps me understand people, and coaching helps them move toward the future they want to create.
The moment I treasure most is when someone pauses, smiles, and quietly says, "I think it finally makes sense." Or, "Now everything has fallen into place." To me, that's the moment when all the scattered pieces finally become a whole.
And once clarity appears, the next step is usually not far behind.
My Philosophy
Over the years, I have studied many theories, approaches, and methods. Some have become part of my work, while others have quietly faded into the background.
What has remained constant are a handful of beliefs that shape the way I create my programs, facilitate groups, work with individual clients - and, perhaps most importantly, the way I try to live my own life.
Dignity
I don't believe that human dignity has to be earned.It doesn't depend on success, productivity, age, diagnosis, or the number of mistakes we've made. We all lose our way sometimes. We all question ourselves. But our dignity remains.That is why I don't see my role as fixing people. I'd rather help them reconnect with the strength, wisdom, and worth that have been there all along.CuriosityCuriosity is my favorite alternative to judgment.The moment we stop asking, "What's wrong with me?" and begin asking, "I wonder why this makes sense?" or "What is this trying to protect?" something shifts.Curiosity creates space for understanding.And I believe that understanding is where meaningful change begins.
Choice
I cannot live someone else's life.
What I can offer is a question, a perspective, a framework, or an invitation to see things differently. The decisions, however, always belong to the person sitting across from me.
Perhaps that's why coaching felt so natural to me. It doesn't take authorship away - it helps people reclaim it.
Context
None of us exists in isolation.
Our families, relationships, cultures, communities, opportunities, losses, and privileges all become part of our story. Sometimes we are far too quick to blame ourselves for struggles that make much more sense when viewed within the larger picture.
To understand a person, I believe we also need to understand the world they are living in.
Coherence
This is my favorite moment in any conversation.
Someone pauses, smiles, and quietly says, "Now it all makes sense."
Or, "Everything has finally fallen into place."
To me, that's the moment when scattered thoughts, emotions, memories, and experiences stop competing with one another and begin to form a coherent picture.
And once clarity appears, the next step usually becomes visible.
Care
I don't believe that growth has to come through constant struggle or self-criticism.
Yes, change asks something of us. But we don't have to fight ourselves in order to move forward.
I believe in kindness, in sustainable change, in rest, and healthy boundaries.
And, of course, in the quiet strength that grows when we learn to treat ourselves with the same compassion we so readily offer others.
How Programs Are Born
I don't begin with answers. I begin with questions.
Every program begins with curiosity.
Sometimes it's a question I can't stop thinking about. Sometimes it's a book, a conversation, a research paper, or an unexpected connection between ideas that seem unrelated at first.
I start reading, or listening, taking notes and collecting fragments.
At some point, I stop asking "What does this say?" and begin asking a different question:
"How does this connect to everything else I already know?"
That's usually when the cards come out.
I write down the key ideas, spread them across my cork board, and begin moving them around. Looking for patterns. Looking for relationships. Looking for the invisible thread that turns separate insights into one coherent picture. I am like a detective!
And then I ask another question:
"How could this become useful?"
Because understanding something is wonderful.
Helping someone use it is even better.
Once the structure becomes clear, each card grows into a conversation, an exercise, a story, or a practical tool.
Eventually, the cards disappear.
A program remains.
How I Work
We work together
This is your life.
You know it better than I ever could.
My role is not to tell you who you are or what you should do. My role is to ask thoughtful questions, notice patterns, offer perspectives, and help you make sense of what you're experiencing.
The decisions will always remain yours.
You don't have to arrive with perfect words
Some people come with pages of notes.
Others begin with, "I don't even know why I'm crying."
Both are perfectly welcome.
If something feels confusing, messy, or impossible to explain, that's simply where we begin.
We'll find the words together.
Every coach has their own style. Mine has grown from journalism, psychology, coaching, and an endless curiosity about people. I would describe it this way:
I don't believe in fixing people. I believe in understanding them.
Honesty with kindness
I believe honesty is one of the greatest forms of respect.
If I notice something that may be helpful, I'll say so.
Not to judge, not to push.
But because I trust that clarity is kinder than pretending not to see.
Practical, not mysterious
I enjoy ideas, I read new research, I keep learning.
But I'm interested in one question above all: "How can this help someone live a little better?"
That's why I use different approaches when they are useful - not because they sound impressive.
You'll always know what we're doing and why.
Your story belongs to you
Everything you share stays confidential.
I don't record sessions.
My notes are encrypted.
If I ever feel that something from our work could become a useful example for an article or a program, I will always ask first.
And "no" will always be a complete answer.
Presence
When we're working together, you have my full attention.
No multitasking, no checking messages, no pretending to listen while thinking about something else.
I also spend time reflecting between sessions. Sometimes a new connection appears a day later, and if I think it might be useful, I'll bring it to our next conversation.
Endings matter
Every meaningful relationship deserves a thoughtful ending.
Sometimes people leave because they have found what they needed.
Sometimes because life changes.
Sometimes simply because the time feels right.
Whenever possible, I like to pause, look back together, and notice how far you've come.
Because endings are often where we finally see the shape of the journey.
Education
10 Facts About the Fox
1. Why a Fox?
The fox has been my spirit animal for sixteen years.
She first appeared during a psychotherapy session and, somehow, never left. Since then, we've been traveling together.
To me, the fox isn't about cleverness or trickery. She's curious, attentive, adaptable, and quietly resilient. She doesn't rush. She observes, explores, and eventually finds a path.
I still aspire to be a little more like her.
2. Why Healing Fox?
Because I believe that healing often begins with gathering ourselves back together.
Life scatters us. We lose confidence, clarity, energy, trust, or hope. Piece by piece, we learn to find them again.
That's what happens in my groups and individual sessions.
We don't become someone new.
We slowly return to ourselves.
3. Why Curiosity?
Curiosity has always been the force that moves me forward.
Every important decision I've made began with a question rather than a plan.
To me, curiosity is also a sign of freedom.
I take the next step not because I have to—but because I genuinely want to know what lies beyond it.
4. Why CuzLov?
It's a little wordplay.
My surname, Kozlov, can also be written as Cuz Lov—which sounds a bit like because of love.
If curiosity is what moves me,
love is why I move at all.
5. The Tea House Between Worlds
According to my personal mythology, every conversation takes place in a special place.
A Tea House Between Worlds.
It's warm there.
Quiet.
The tea is already poured.
Books line the shelves.
Outside, the world can wait for a little while.
Inside, we talk.
We wonder.
We rest.
And somewhere in those conversations, a new understanding of yourself—and of the future you're building—begins to emerge.
6. One thing I'll never outgrow
Play.
As long as I can play, I can learn.
As long as I learn, I discover.
As long as I discover, I continue thinking.
And as long as I keep thinking, life remains wonderfully unfinished.
7. The most exhilarating feeling I've ever experienced
Flying an airplane.
Not as a passenger.
As the pilot.
For a brief moment, I knew exactly what it feels like to guide something enormous through the sky.
I still remember that feeling.
8. I never stop admiring...
People.
Every single one of us carries something precious inside.
In my imagination, it's a small golden flower.
It opens whenever we feel safe.
Whenever we are loved.
Whenever we trust.
Sometimes my work is simply to help create the conditions where that flower remembers how to bloom.
9. I am still learning.
That's it.
Just...
I am still learning.
And I hope I always will.
10. My favorite words to hear
"I'm with you."
Not because they solve everything.
But because something extraordinary happens when two people stop facing the world alone.
I believe that real change is born in relationships.
Sometimes all it takes is knowing that someone is sitting beside you.